depression

Week 10 Habit: Weekend Routine

I love Mondays. I hate weekends. I use to anyway, but I don’t like hating them and am changing my sentiments. It should be easier for me to start loving weekends (in addition to Mondays) than for Monday hating people to change!

Part of me needs variety to prevent boredom, while another part finds comfort in routine. The Monday through Friday workweek provides a structured environment, and life feels consistent. I complete more of what I want to accomplish on my to-do list when I have structured day, rather than during the weekend freedom. Being busy, but not too busy, gives me focus.

I find structure to be therapeutic for depression and anxiety, so I feel more energetic on workdays. The distraction of planned, weekend activities helps, but it’s a temporary fix. Most of my weekend activities aren’t consistent from one week to the next.

Packing my weekends full doesn’t seem to be the answer, seeing as how being overly busy is stressful. As a morning person, I’ve tried waking up at a set time on weekends and starting my day with new, weekend habits. Nothing major…I’m talking about washing dishes or vacuuming! There’s something about the habit of being productive, first thing in the morning. It sets the tone for the rest of my day. I understand most people prefer to relax and sleep late, so everyone has to do what works personally.

Even though I know sleeping late leads me into depression and anxiety, that’s typically what I do. If it’s like other habits, I have to rewind the series of events to determine a more effective time to implement a change. For instance, I could make Saturday morning plans earlier than when I’m in bed on Fridays. On worknights, I pack my food and gym bag so I’m ready to brush my teeth and walk out of the door in the morning. I don’t have to think about it, I just wake up and do it. A similar Friday night habit could trigger the same result.

So, my homework for this week’s habit is to go to bed at a decent time tomorrow (Friday) night, with running attire chosen for an early morning workout!

What about you…do your weekends need more structure or fewer commitments? What are you going to do about it??

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Week 4 Habit: Daily Doses

Last week’s habit was to drink apple cider vinegar (ACV) everyday. I didn’t remember everyday, but figured out it was easier if I put the bottle in my bathroom cabinet by my toothbrush. Seemingly meaningless habits are useful to developing the skills to implement habits that stick. Making and breaking habits is in and of itself a habit. I want to explore this further in a future post.

I feel like quitting. I feel like hiding instead of writing. I know why. I have been struggling with depressive thoughts, and I haven’t been eating healthy, which leads to more depressive thoughts and guilt. I can’t quit though, because I know these feelings are just part of the process of change and growth. Working through them is the choice I’m making. Some moments require more effort than others, but it’s still possible to keep moving.

Even when I feel down, I can still make choices to take small actions that help me stay afloat. Another reason for seemingly meaningless habits is to prevent drowning and stay focused on my goals and dreams. Previous habits: I will use people’s names when I tell them “hello,” so I focus outward and connect; I will identify my feelings so I stay in tune with myself; I will drink a swallow of ACV daily, because it’s healthy and is a habit of positive intention. For this week’s habit of daily doses, I will remember to take my daily meds/vitamins and start taking a few herbal/spice supplements for the same reasons as the ACV. I will also remember my daily dose of connecting with God, including the daily verse on my YouVersion Bible app and the Air1 app.